How do you handle questions from others about starting a family when you're not sure yourself?

It’s that time again—family gatherings where the question inevitably comes up: “So, when are you starting a family?” For many of us navigating the complexities of our reproductive identity, this can feel like a heavy weight. We might be grappling with our own uncertainties, societal expectations, or personal circumstances that make the idea of starting a family feel daunting or even overwhelming. One thing that helped me was simply preparing my response. I found that having a few phrases ready, like “We’re still figuring things out” or “It’s a conversation we’re having,” took a bit of the pressure off when those questions came up. It’s okay to set boundaries while still being polite. You don’t owe anyone a detailed explanation of your feelings or choices. Remember, many of us are dealing with similar feelings of uncertainty, and it’s totally valid to protect your peace. Another approach some of us try is to shift the focus of the conversation. Instead of feeling cornered, I’ve found that redirecting the topic to something lighter or more general can help. Asking questions about their experiences or sharing a funny story can change the vibe entirely. It can not only ease the awkwardness but also remind us that our worth isn’t tied to our reproductive choices. And let’s not forget the power of connection. Finding even one person who understands these struggles can be a game changer. I recently met someone who is also questioning family planning, and we started sharing our experiences over coffee. Just having someone to talk to about the confusion and pressure made me feel so much lighter. It’s comforting to know we’re not alone in this. Anyone else dealing with this? Sometimes just talking to one person who gets it makes all the difference—what strategies have you used to handle those questions?